Let’s Talk About… New Year, New Butt Plug?

Written By Amber

Hey Lovers,

2021 hasn’t got off to the best start, has it? Lockdown after lockdown after… but we do hope you’re loving the new B&L website! We’re here 24/7 to help you through those long days and nights cooped up at home.

Of course, we’re always on the lookout for new and exciting toys for you to discover and enjoy, but we thought we’d take it back to basics this blog. Butt plug basics. We’ve had a few people ask us about anal play and how best to introduce it into the bedroom. We get it, it may not be for everyone, but how do you know until you’ve tried?!

I for one heard absolute horror stories in high school. Things getting stuck, the guarantee you’d shit yourself and the excruciating pain that you had to deal with in order to experience anal play. At the time, it was enough to put me off for life. But, as with most of the crap you hear from your peers at
high school, it turns out that ain’t the case; when it’s done right.

Discussing the world of anal play and plugs at Bear & Lace HQ, we decided it’s time this taboo was put to bed – literally!

No Penis? No Problem!

So many people have the misconception that anal plugs are for the satisfaction of our pals with a penis. Most certainly not! Vagina or penis, if you’ve got a butt, a butt plug can feel amazing. Sure our babes with balls have that special little erogenous zone, the prostate, but there’s a whole lot of fun to be had by everyone else too.

If you’re looking to explore the world of anal sex, a plug can be the perfect warm up. But the fun doesn’t stop there. Introducing an anal plug into the bedroom can open a whole new world of pleasure. Wearing one during ANY sex act can lead to heightened arousal, not to mention orgasms
beyond your wildest dreams.

Safety First

I’m sure we’ve all heard the nightmare tales of late night trips to A&E. X-rays of rectums with weird and not so wonderful items floating about, or the age old classic: “Dr. honestly, I slipped getting out of the bath and fell onto the shampoo bottle…”

Butt plugs are sex toys specifically designed to be used in the anus. They are created in such a way to ensure the utmost safety, whether that be shape, with a slight curve and flared base, or with a ring feature allowing you to remove it easily. Unlike the vagina, the anus acts a little like a vortex and will suck all of the wrong things up there given the chance.

Safety when exploring the butt has to come first, so choosing a toy specifically designed for this purpose is key.

Picking a Plug

As with all our fave sex toys, butt plugs come in all different shapes and sizes. They also come in a whole range of materials (have you seen the 24k gold LELO plug?!) so first you have to decide which one is right for you.

I checked in with the butt plug loving Bear & Lace babes, who all concluded that newbies to the world of anal play should definitely start slim and small. Whether you’re exploring new erogenous zones solo or with a partner, don’t go in all plugs blazing. Silicone, being soft, flexible and comfortable, is always a good place to start.

How Do I Use It?

First things first – lube, lube and more lube. The anus doesn’t have its own source of lubrication, so this is super important. We recommend experimenting with different lubes to find your fave playmate. The Sensuva Natural Lubricant is a firm Bear & Lace favourite, just make sure you’re topping up regularly. For silicone plugs you need to use a water based product, silicone lubricants and silicone toys are not friends. Just remember, in this instance, opposites really do attract.

As with all toys, you do you! If you want to wear one during masturbation and self-exploration, you go babe! You can use them during BDSM play or even out and about as your own little sexy secret, or why not slip one in for a hot date night.

Slow & Steady

We can’t encourage this enough, take your exploration slow and steady. It’s definitely not a race and don’t be discouraged if you aren’t experiencing mind-blowing pleasure immediately. As with all good things, patience and practice is key.

You have to be uber-relaxed in order for your booty to allow anything up there. Try setting the scene with a nice relaxing bath, light a few candles and breeeathe. You may also find it just isn’t for you, never feel as though you have to push any of your boundaries for anyone.

The anus is FULL of sensitive nerve endings just waiting to be discovered. Did you know you can have a full-on anal orgasm? That’s right. So if you’re looking at broadening your sexual horizons in the new year, we reckon this is a great place to start.

Give The Gift of Pleasure

You can view our full range of fant-ass-tic anal toys right here. Hit us up on Insta DM’s or via email if you’d like a discreet helping hand choosing a new toy. (Or just have a burning sex-ed Q).

Go on, give the gift of pleasure.