Let’s Talk About… Living in a Fantasy Land

Written By Amber

Hey Lovers,

With V-Day just around the corner, we’ve been super busy getting all your Bear & Lace boxes together and shipped out. We can’t wait for all you lucky B&L babes to receive your gifts and explore fantasy land!

Apps are taking over the dating game once again, thanks pandemic. Whilst in and amongst discussing our right swipes and DM slides, we ended up on the subject of exploring fantasies with new lovers. Specifically, whether we would, or wouldn’t?

No matter what your kink, exploring sexual fantasies is totally healthy. As long as practiced safely and with consent, consent and more consent, it can be a really exciting way to enjoy an empowering sex life. From BDSM to role play we’ve compiled a rundown of some of the most popular sexual fantasies we’ve encountered.

Shades of…

Ugh, we know, but we couldn’t compile a list of top fantasies without it. Thanks to that little franchise we’re sure you’ve all heard of by now, BDSM hit the mainstream not so many years ago. No matter what your views on the aforementioned “Shades of…”, the fact that this super popular fantasy became openly talked about and explored means we have to give credit where credit is due.

Whether you desire to dominate or be dominated this is definitely one of the top fantasies amongst the girls. One study shows that 65% of women crave to be dominated, whilst a further 47% wish to be the one in control.

If you are new to the world of BDSM and want to explore your passions, check out our Beginner’s Bondage Box!

The Latest Exhibit…

With the introduction of sites such as OnlyFans, exhibitionism is another fantasy that can be easily and safely realised in the real world. Many women are embracing their sexuality and it’s 2020, why the hell not?

Do you fantasize about stripping, starring in your own porno or reaching climax in front of an audience? Exhibitionism is high up on the list of fantasies amongst all ages. Big support to all our wannabe cam girls out there.

Stranger Things

Sex with a stranger is another top fantasy amongst the Bear & Lace babes. The sudden spontaneity of sex with someone you’ve just set eyes on, usually in an uncommon location, seems to get a lot of people going. Who doesn’t love the thought of forbidden, wild, unruly, passionate sex?!

With the safety of sex parties this fantasy can be explored ethically and with full consent. Having said that, with the current climate, this may not be an option for most. Luckily for you, tech is on your side!

With the Satisfyer Curvy and the latest Satisfyer app – you can have someone control your vibrator from wherever. This includes, should you choose, others that you haven’t met before…

Doctors and Nurses

OK, maybe not specifically Doctors and Nurses, but role play is most certainly up there in fantasy land. Spanking a naughty student or getting down and dirty with your boss? The possibilities of role play are endless.

The thought of being someone far removed from the day-to-day self seems to be a real hot topic amongst women exploring their sexual fantasies. We are all here for it! Off the back of role-play comes the ever increasingly popular Cosplay – dressing up as a character from a movie or TV show may entice you into a whole new sexy persona.

Taboo Topics

Our pals at Pornhub are noticing an increase in searches for daddy porn and step-sibling scenarios. Whilst incest is a wildly taboo topic, the great thing about your fantasy world is that it’s just that, a fantasy. It doesn’t mean you would want to act on it in real life and you certainly shouldn’t be ashamed of your own private thoughts.

If you feel like your sex musings are negative or shameful it may be worth reaching out to a sex therapist. Understanding where your hidden desires come from can be therapeutic and give you a release from any doubts. Remember, the sex positive community doesn’t do judgement.

You Do You!

At Bear & Lace we totally advocate exploring and trying out your sexual fantasies should you wish. If this involves doing so with a partner, it is super important that you discuss your fantasy world first and make sure the other party is happy to be involved. Consensual, safe sex is key to enjoying every erotic moment.

Do you think we should be open to exploring sexual fantasies in real life or do you prefer to keep them as just that, a fantasy? We’re opening up the convo over on Insta and would love to hear your thoughts!